Gerard Egan is the king of problem solving. His influential book published in the seventies: The Skilled Helper, is still taught in universities around the world. One of Egan’s ideas that we really love here at Your Feeding Team, is his concept of coping as a goal. It can be transformative.
When we hear someone say they are ‘coping’ this can give the impression that they are getting by, but nothing more. They are scraping through on the bare minimum and things could be a whole lot better. When coping is a goal in itself though, suddenly you can feel a whole lot better about all that you do.
Have you ever been in a situation when you have so much work you are behind on, your house is a mess and your kids are not getting the attention you know they deserve? Maybe dinner is just what you can find in the freezer because you have no time for shopping or meal planning. Perhaps the best you can do in terms of stimulating and engaging your child is switching on Netflix.
Instead of aiming to get your house tidy, reach inbox-zero, set up multiple enriching, craft-based activities for your child, aim to COPE. Because when you lay your head on your pillow at the end of the day, you can feel good about what you have achieved, rather than bad.
“I made it to the end of today without completely losing my sh*t”
“I got three meals on the table!”
“I turned up to that Zoom meeting!”
Let’s take a look at what coping might look like if you have a picky eater you are trying to support:
Self care is SO important. If you’re not looking after yourself, it’s very difficult to feel like you’re coping. Here are some ideas from our facebook page that may help.
If life is challenging at the moment, we invite you to look at things differently and feel great about yourself when you look back at your day and say:
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